Below’s something that I wrote a year ago but never posted. It was right around the time that M moved into his own bedroom….in the end he moved in right around Christmas.
Part of the reason we moved in the past year was to find a house where C and M could have their own bedroom. They’ve shared ever since M was several months old.
Yes, they have their fair share of squabbles- C moved my lego tower! M woke me up and it’s too early (ironic, as this would be on a school day where she needs to be up) – but on the whole they share their toys, they play together regularly and view it as a joint haven.
It’s all they’ve ever known. From our first house, to this new home, they’ve been together, moved together and stuck together. And now that we are nearing the completion, unveiling of M’s bedroom so he can move to his own space, they seem fairly unsure about it.
C has taken to reading to M every night, which is great, and really sweet. He chooses picture books and she also talks him through phonics in some of our first readers. She knows the techniques they use at school better than I do, and the other day I overheard her talking about a phonics frog that had them both laughing, and him sounding out little words.
Several years down the line I’m sure they’ll value their own space, but right now, I think they’ll really miss each other. It’s made me think that maybe we should gradually transition M’s stuff to his room before he full fledged moves in. I tend to be a let’s dive in type of person but maybe on this occasion a softly softly approach might be better.
Otherwise, I’m anticipating many a ‘sleepover,’ where we go upstairs to find them asleep in the same bed! It’s no issue just yet though as we need to finish painting it!! We’ve run out of some steam with decorating and need to get our mojo back, but that’s a new post altogether…
Do your kids share a room? Or did they? How did they adjust to the transition to their own space?
Back to the here and now. So what ask you, is so funny about this? Oh, my overthinking! At the time, I pondered the best way to transition M to his own room, I wrote this blog post, I probably asked Chris who probably said why are you asking me this?
- M moved into his room without any issue – I don’t think we did it gradually, but I can’t really remember.
- He had a new bed and his own space for the first time ever…I’m sure having something of ‘his own’ rather than being in his sister’s wake quite appealed.
- The kids still read together. And sometimes still have sleepovers. And play in each other’s space.
- When M bursts into C’s room with a loud sirening car, or shouting “oooh la la” (one of his current favs), we can redirect him into his own space, which we’re lucky and grateful to have.
- How much more time would I have in the day if I didn’t over think things? Not enough, but a LOT more!